Ordinarily when I write, I type a bunch of stuff that I think and then say "There, you, read it and like it." But today will you just talk back to me a little bit?
So I was watching Paper Heart this afternoon. I know you don't all know about this movie so I'll give you some brief context:
So the thing is that Charlyne doesn't believe in love. But everyone else in the whole world, obviously, does. Clearly though, she starts dating Michael Cera and as an audience we're thinking that this relationship will change her thoughts on the love situation. But she maintains that she's not in love with him. He makes her happy. She misses him when he's away. She feels sad when he leaves on semi-uncomfortable terms. He loves her. And yet she maintains that she does not love him. And, I have to tell you, it's not presented in a hostile sort of way. She almost seems apologetic about it. She seems sorry that she can't give him what he wants--which is to be alone with her and for her to just love him.
Most of me thinks that the only reason that Charlyne doesn't "love" Michael is because she's always said for so long that she wouldn't love anyone that now that push comes to shove, she's just being stubborn. I mean--they're clearly in a very happy relationship.
Throughout, she goes and talks to lots of people about love and what it is for them--it seemed like everyone had something different to say. Some people were high school sweethearts, others just like hot wings.
But I'm just wondering, RE your personal definition and in this romantic relation context:
1. What's love, even?
2. Is there a difference between loving someone and being in love with them?
3. Is the being "in love" part pivotal to a happy, maintaining relationship?
4. Have you ever been "in love"? How many times?
5. How did you know?
6. Are you in love now? Would you like to be?
You go first. I'll go in a minute.